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Story Time: How I Accidentally Killed The Romance On Our Honeymoon

February 19, 2015 by Flight Wife 2 Comments

Story Time: How I Accidentally Killed The Romance On Our Honeymoon


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Story time!! I’ve got a good one for you today. Grab a comfy seat and sit back, relax, and prepare to laugh at my expense…

It was the fall of 2006.  There we were, a freshly minted newlywed couple, ready to celebrate our brand new marriage with a weeklong trip to Hawaii. We were giddy as we picked up our rental Jeep and drove to the resort that my aunt and uncle had gifted us for our wedding.

We got there and gave ourselves a tour of our suite, which was beautiful. Everything was tropical and greenery, with white linens blowing in the breeze.  We settled in and started making plans for our stay; a snorkeling trip, a scuba diving expedition, and swimming with dolphins were just a few adventures we had planned.

The view from our room - not bad!

The view from our room – not bad!

One night as we got back to our hotel, tipsy on Mai Tais and each other, I gave him the come-hither eyes as I made my way to the bed.  It was covered in a beautiful white duvet, with a black swirled pattern that snaked its way across the top of it. I laid across it, positioning myself just so so that when he walked in he would have no choice but to succumb to my sexiness.

He told me he would be right back, he was just going to grab something. I don’t remember what it was, a candle? Dessert? My memory escapes me, but it wasn’t important. I quickly threw on some lingerie I had gotten as a shower present and leapt back onto the bed.  As I perfected my arched-back-crossed-legs-pouty-mouth pose, I waited for him to come back. He was going to want me. He was going to want me bad, I just knew it.

When he walked back in, instead of the look of lust and adoration I was expecting there was a sort of grimace; a look of half shock and half confusion crossed his face as he studied me and said, “Are you on your period? You’re bleeding.”

What?!

It couldn’t be. I had meticulously planned my birth control so that there was no chance of there being any signs of Shark Week during our honeymoon. What can I say? I’m a planner.

I looked around to see what he could possibly be talking about…

And then I saw it. Blood all over the beautiful duvet that was WHITE. Well, used to be white.

Shit.

“Oh God!!! Where is it coming from?! How are we going to get that out?!?!”

I jumped up frantically and just then the scattering clink of a razor hitting the floor jarred us. We looked at each other and back down.

“Well, how the hell did that get th…”

“It’s your leg,” he said, pointing.

Sure enough, my knee and thigh had blood smeared everywhere. In all my sexy writhing glory I had gotten it everywhere. You little bastard, I thought as I gave the razor the death stare. I ran into the bathroom to assess the damage.

How the hell did that happen? And how did I not know? It doesn’t even hurt!!

I cleaned up the blood and there were two small cuts on my leg, barely anything. How in the hell does such a small cut create enough damn blood to make the bed look like a murder scene?!?!

I walked back into the bedroom to see Scott furiously scrubbing the duvet. We were pretty poor at the time, and the thought of having to pay for a new one, or even trying to explain what happened was making my stomach churn.

About fifteen stressful, please-lord-jesus-let-it-be-clean minutes later, the blood was gone.

But so was the mood.  Blood is pretty much the opposite of sexy.  But that’s what I get for trying too hard. Karma disguised itself as a pretty pink razor of doom.  Just to knock me down a few notches.

We collapsed into bed, our buzzes worn off and then laughed at how I could miss seeing a bright pink razor on the bedspread.  It must have fallen out of my bag when I had moved all my other toiletries from my suitcase. Of all things, really?! It couldn’t have been a makeup brush, or something else not associated with blades of destruction.

Damn you, razor.

Don’t feel too bad for me, there was plenty of sex to be had on the rest of our honeymoon.  Of course we had a great time, it was Hawaii! I mean, look at these two young crazy kids…

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Ahhh, love…

 

There was also more blood, when we were out walking and my toe jammed into a raised sprinkler head I didn’t see. I’m a bit of a klutz apparently.

I can't believe I found this picture! And ouch...

I can’t believe I found this picture! And ouch…

But all was well and we still managed to have a glorious time. Just learn from me and watch where you unpack your stuff – you never know what items may come back and attack you.

Got any funny honeymoon stories? Comment below!

Xoxo,

The Flight Wife

Freebie Time! Airplane Themed Calendar

February 14, 2015 by Flight Wife Leave a Comment

Freebie Time!  Airplane Themed Calendar

March

Happy Valentine’s Day!!  I thought I would give away something fun, so I created an airplane themed calendar. I’ll be adding to it as I design each month, so keep checking back!  Here is the downloadable PDF: download March!

Hope you have a great day and a fantastic weekend! What are your Valentine’s Day plans?

 

Xoxo,

The Flight Wife

How To Make An Awesome Playroom On A Budget

February 14, 2015 by Flight Wife 2 Comments

How To Make An Awesome Playroom On A Budget


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Think it’s impossible?  So did I! Hahaha. But of course I did it anyway and surprised myself by recreating this entire room for less than $500. It was a lot of work, but nothing worth doing is easy.  The result was completely worth it. Read on to see how you can do it, too.

We moved into our new house a few months ago, and this is how the previous owners had decorated:

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That green was a bit… hideous, to say the least. So I covered the green with a happy blue and here are some after pictures!

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As you can see, most of the stuff I have in this room is from IKEA. I love that place!! Such wonderful, colorful items for kiddos. Things that make any room look bright and cheery!

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I made the “PLAY” sign with a canvas and letters from Hobby Lobby.  The storage and bins are from IKEA and you can find them here.  The tent, rug, and pillows are also from IKEA.

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I got the market idea from Pinterest, you can view the tutorial here.  Then I made my own pattern for the awning, and used a bowl to outline the curves. It didn’t turn out perfect, but it did turn out cute, and that’s what I was going for. 🙂  All the play food I got from Amazon and is Melissa and Doug. (I just love their kid stuff!)  The shopping cart is as well.

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I rescued this sign from my mom’s move, she was throwing it out and I knew I would have a good use for it!  She’s so happy her grandson is enjoying it now.  When in doubt, don’t throw out! *Unless it’s junk or useless or ugly. In that case, definitely throw it out. Haha.

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I just love the little reading nook. I was a huge reader as a kid, and I loved curling up and getting lost in whatever story I was reading at the time.  The bookshelves are spice racks from IKEA (another Pinterest idea) that I spray painted white.  The pillowcases are from eBay, from this store.  The fabric trunk is also from IKEA.

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I made this sign by taking letters from Hobby Lobby (and also got the pre-painted canvas there) and Mod Podging (the matte kind, not the glossy) book pages to them. All I had to do was trace the letter onto the page, cut it out, put some Mod Podge on the letter, paste the page, and Mod Podge again over the whole thing.  Super easy. I ended up painting the letters after, and it would have saved me a ton of time to do it first, so learn from my mistake, and paint first!

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I also love the crafting center!  Table and chairs are from IKEA, as well as the containers and paper holder. I can’t wait to create some artwork with my kids so we can display it on the walls.

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This sign was from Kirkland’s, as soon as I saw it I knew I wanted it!  I love how it turned out.

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This is one of the last things I need to finish – I’m going to make a sign for the top of the little crate booth that says, “The Shop” for Parker’s tools. Then I’ll add a little pegboard on the wall and he can pretend to fix whatever need fixing.

That’s it!  I love how it turned out, and so far my kids and their friends have had a blast playing together. I think they will enjoy it for years to come!

What do you think? I would love to see any of your before/after photos in the comments! Thanks for stopping by!

Xoxo,

The Flight Wife

How To Keep Your Marriage Sizzling When Your Husband Works Away From Home – Part Two

February 12, 2015 by Flight Wife Leave a Comment

How To Keep Your Marriage Sizzling When Your Husband Works Away From Home – Part Two


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Welcome to part 2!  Here are some more tips on keeping things sizzling when your husband is a traveler.  (If you missed it, here’s part one of this how-to.)

 

Ask Questions

We all know what happens when we’ve been with our spouses for years. We figure that we already know all of their stories, their hopes and dreams, and their fears. I am totally guilty of this.  On more than one occasion I have completely tuned out my husband because he’s telling a story I’ve already heard a million times.  He can be forgetful, that one.

Besides, that was totally the point of dating.  To put everything under a microscope and learn everything we possibly could about our future mate.  But sometimes people change, and we should really try to never stop learning about each other.

Would you want your husband to stop asking about you? Of course not! You are super interesting! We’ll get back to how interesting you are in my next point.  Anyway, I found this list of fun questions to ask your spouse:

http://www.patheos.com/blogs/davewillis/21-questions-to-ask-on-date-night/

Things like, “What is one thing you’d like to accomplish by this time next year?” and “What was your earliest childhood memory?” are included.  I am totally trying it out this weekend when we go on our date!

 

designHave Your Own Interests

This is super important. Remember when I said earlier that you are interesting? Part of that is due to the stuff that you do outside of your marriage. What are you into? What did you used to be into before you were married?

For instance, I love photography. (So much that I started a business because of it.) I also love music and playing the piano. I like painting, and reading, and writing (obviously).  Some of this stuff Scott is into, and some of it he isn’t.  He has his own interests and hobbies, including brewing beer and making (damn good) wine. He also loves flying (of course) and boating.

The great thing about having your own interests is that it makes you, you. When you both work on your separate stuff, you get to come back together and talk about how it’s going. I love being able to tell Scott some of the stuff I see when I am taking pictures, and he always compliments my work and tells me how impressed he is. (Which I love!)

He loves sharing his beer making skills with me, and often has me taste test his brews before he kegs them. It’s fun!  It’s pretty hot to see your spouse get into something, enjoy it, and be good at it. And when they let you into their world and can teach you a thing or two, that’s a bonus.

The couple who plays together, stays together.

 

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This one can be tough, but bear with me here. This one is not for the casual mention, really. It’s for a time you can be private together. In other words, it’s pillow talk. Not that it has to be a serious convo; on the contrary, it can totally be something you talk about after a few drinks and you are both in the mood.

Ask your spouse what their fantasies are. What would they want to try that you’ve never done? (This goes hand in hand with talking to each other – notice a theme?)  Play the game Would You Ever:

“Would you ever have a threesome?”

“Would you ever do it in public?”

“Would you ever do it on an airplane?”

The game is fun because it opens up some hilarious and teasing dialogue. And talking about what you fantasize about is super sexy.

Remember to never make fun of the other person. No fantasy is too weird, even if it seems that way to you. You can laugh about it and move on, but don’t ever alienate your spouse by making fun of them or calling them a freak. You will sever that bond faster than you can say “handcuffs”.

Did I say handcuffs? You bet I did. Bow chicka bow wow!

 

Have any suggestions of your own? I would love to hear from you! Comment below with your thoughts. 🙂

 

Xoxo,

The Flight Wife

 

You Know Why It’s Awesome When Our Husbands Are Home? Let Me Tell You…

February 11, 2015 by Flight Wife Leave a Comment

You Know Why It’s Awesome When Our Husbands Are Home? Let Me Tell You…


IMG_0147.PNGI was at home today, well actually, all of us were home today, which as you know rarely happens. Of course Scott was getting ready to go on a trip later this afternoon, so he was getting ready while I got Parker ready for school. Today is picture day, so I did his hair. Usually we skip that part because we are frantically running around swearing rushing to make it out the door. (See how much I look forward to taking him to school in this post.)

Anyway, this time my husband was here to help and it was so much better. There was no rush, we were just both there to help each other and do what we do best, which is work as a team.  When he’s gone I don’t have my teammate anymore, it’s just me.  I know you can relate if your husband leaves for work.

The work load doubles as soon as they walk out the door. And you know that for the next few days – it’s all you, baby.  All the household chores, the meals, the driving around, the errands, the problems, all of it.

So when they are home, it’s nice to feel that burden of responsibility lifted a little. It’s nice to know you’re not alone in this.

That’s why my husband does so much when he’s home; he knows what I’ve been taking care of while he was gone and he puts in the work. I am super lucky, and I realize that. He does all the laundry, cooks when he’s home, and is an active participant in our lives. (Communication while he’s away is a key part of that.) I really appreciate him and all the things he does.  So it makes it hard to see him go.

I’m not gonna lie, sometimes I’m ready for him to leave, to give us our space. It’s how our relationship started and how it has thrived; we both like some time apart, it makes the time we do have together that much better. But this time… this time I kinda wanted him to stay a little longer.

Xoxo,

The Flight Wife

 

 

 

 

How To Keep Your Marriage Sizzling When Your Husband Works Away From Home – Part One

February 9, 2015 by Flight Wife Leave a Comment

How To Keep Your Marriage Sizzling When Your Husband Works Away From Home – Part One


marriage picEveryone gets in a rut sometimes. It’s a reality of marriage.  But what are you gonna do about it? That my friends, is what I’m here to help with.

I have been married to my husband for over 8 years, and we’ve been together for 11. We’ve had our share of ups and downs, but thankfully there have been more ups than downs.  And I believe it’s due to some of the advice I’m about to give.  Don’t get me wrong – my marriage isn’t perfect and I am definitely not coming at you from a place of “I know it all and have all the secrets”. (Who wants to be friends with that girl?!)  I definitely don’t have all the secrets.

Believe me, there are times when as hard as I try, I am just not in the mood or we’re not getting along. Everyone has those moments. If they can’t admit that they are lying.  So when that happens, I just pour myself some wine and take a bath. I can (and do!) enjoy my own company.  However, I do have some tips and tricks that I think any couple can try to keep that spark alive.  Don’t feel like you have to do them all, or cross them off like a checklist. Use what works and toss the rest if you want. This is supposed to be fun! You will thank me later.

 

IMG_0086Keep In Contact

It’s easy to let the day-by-day tasks get in the way of communication. Kids, household chores, and all the other crap we manage while they are gone can get in the way of just talking.

Remember when you used to just talk? For hours? How on earth did we have the time?

It’s crucial to cut out that time for each other. Even a simple text can make a difference in your day. And I can’t say that I haven’t had a lasting smile on my face after receiving a sexy text from my husband out of the blue.

As I was writing this, I took my own advice and sent my husband a flirty text. It made me happy. And let’s just say, it was well received. 🙂

But what about when you can’t text? Sometimes when my husband is flying or doesn’t have service, we can’t text. Email works well for this. Having to slow down and read what your spouse has to say is beneficial to your communication. The fact that they have to read everything you write before responding is great – there’s no room for interrupting because they have to read all that you have to say (assuming that they aren’t just skimming, of course).

Taking the time to write an email can also give you chance to remember everything you wanted to tell them, which helps me because I often skip over some of the things I meant to tell him and didn’t. Of course, this is assuming that I have time to write out an email, which sometimes isn’t the case. I am pretty forgetful sometimes, so I’ve starting writing things down that are important to tell my husband when I get him on the phone. This helps me SO much! Once we get all the little things we need to take care of out of the way, it leaves more time for “us” talk.

 

Send Pictures

Yes, that kind.  Quit being shy, there’s no need. This is your husband we are talking about! Yeah yeah, your thighs are big. Your stomach isn’t what it was before kids. Your ass back in the day was merely a shadow of what it is now.

I don’t care.

And neither does your husband.  You are a beautiful woman!! Embrace it! Men are visual by nature, and respond to visual stimulation more than women (it’s science: check out this article). So quit it… Go put on a sexy bra and snap a pic. Get over yourself.

There are a million ways to be sexy – even hinting at sexiness is sexy. As a photographer, it’s my job to pose my subjects in the most flattering way. When I shoot families, I always make sure that the wife/mom looks good. Why? Because it is inevitable that the pictures where she looks the best are the pictures that she will buy. No one wants to buy pictures of themselves that they don’t love.

So I get it. Let’s talk about it.

To get around any insecurities, take pictures of things you like about yourself. Things that are sexy… your lips, your legs, your feet in high heels, your cleavage. You don’t have to do full body shots. You can start with baby steps. For example, you could put on some thigh-highs and take a picture of just the top lace. Take a picture of your mouth while, ahem, enjoying a sucker. Hold up a pair of your sexiest panties – insinuating you have taken them off. Put on a pretty bra and some pearls, and take a picture of your neck and cleavage, with your hand trailing the side of your face. The options are limitless; don’t be afraid to try different things!

Send him a quick text to get his blood pumping and let him know what he’s missing at work – and what he has to look forward to when he gets home.  You might be surprised at how well this turns out. Do yourself a favor and at least try it! 

***So I can’t ask you to do something I wouldn’t do myself, right?! Right!  Here is a picture that I just ran upstairs and took in less than 10 minutes. Some stockings, heels, a chair, and voila! (P.S. Check out the app called Word Swag – it’s how I make all these captioned pictures. Love it!) feet

And the best part is that I was in pajama shorts and a tank top. But who needs to know? It’s our little secret. 😉

 

Make Him Remember

us<— See that girl?  That girl was awesome.  Remember the kind of woman you were when you two were dating?  The woman who was up for anything, who was spontaneous and fun?  You need to bring her back. (Some of her, not all of her – some things need to stay in the past ifyouknowwhatImean… I’m looking at you, pierced bellybutton. And body glitter. Oy.)

Plan a date for when he gets home and keep it a surprise. Hire a sitter* and then take him out!  Try someplace new that you’ve both never been. Nothing spices up the same old, same old like doing something new together.  This is where stories come from!  Think about when you were dating – you have stories right? That’s because you were doing stuff. Together.

GO DO SOME STUFF.

Recently Scott and I tried out a new restaurant, one that neither of us had been to.  We both got dressed up and when we got there, decided to sit outside near a really cool fire pit and string lights. All of a sudden a cameraman came up to us and asked if it would be ok to film us for a news segment they were doing about that restaurant. We had a blast trying to keep straight faces and not look like total idiots while they filmed us eating. It gave us something to laugh about, and made us closer.

Experiencing things together strengthens your bond, because it’s something that just the two of you share. That is the key to staying connected.

Well, that’s all for now, stay tuned for Part 2, it’s coming later this week! Have something to say? Let me know in the comments!

 

Xoxo, The Flight Wife

 

*I realize that it’s not always easy to get a sitter. Try reaching out to friends, neighbors, or your local church. It is super important for you to be able to get away from the kids once in while, I can’t stress this enough. Your marriage is worth it. And so are you. Hugs from me to you!

It’s The Little Things…

February 8, 2015 by Flight Wife Leave a Comment

It’s The Little Things…

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Like taking the kiddos to the park because it’s February and 75 degrees outside. Not many places can say that right now. But here we are in the sunshine in the middle of winter.

It’s awesome.

Sometimes I don’t feel like doing anything but staying inside, but it’s always fun to get out of the house. I feel like I am constantly trying to show (my son, especially) that we can do things without having Daddy home.

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They both love the swings, haha. Who doesn’t?  I can still remember swinging when I was a kid on the playground.

It’s not always easy to do things alone, or to get motivated to get outside. But their little smiles and laughter make it totally worth it. I’m going to try and do it more often.  Yay for getting outside!

 

Xoxo,

Taniya

 

“Just A Mom”

February 7, 2015 by Flight Wife Leave a Comment

“Just A Mom”

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Have you ever had anyone say that phrase to you?

I never had until today, when a girl working at the Verizon store said it to me.  It was flippant, nonchalant, a side note. But it struck me and made me think.

Is that what people really think about moms?

I had come in to upgrade my dinosaur of a phone, and she started the small talk (what is with people and their damn small talk?!). She asked what my husband does for a living (because of the company discount we get) and I told her. She asked if I was a pilot as well, and I said no but I had been a flight attendant before. And that’s when she said it:

“Oh, so now you’re just a mom?”

As if that were somehow a demotion. Her words packed a punch, and I don’t even think she knew it.

“Uh, no. Actually, I’m also a photographer.”

Why did I feel the need to justify myself?  I was mostly still shocked at her question.

Just…

“Oh that’s really cool.” And then she went on with her sales pitch, trying to get me to add a case and whatever other “bundle” she could try to get me to buy.

I understand that she probably had no intention of being rude, or snide, or condescending. In fact, she was a very nice girl, and we talked a little more until I had everything I needed and left.

I hope that one day when she becomes a mother that she doesn’t think of herself as “just a mom”. There is so much that goes into it – and most of it unrecognized – which is probably why I bristled at the phrase. There is so much that we do behind the scenes that it feels like it doesn’t matter. But it does.

I am a wiper of tears, a kisser of owies, a fabulous Lego builder, a creative pretender, a warm presence, an enforcer of rules, a time manager, a nap ninja, a teacher, an example, a storyteller, a mom. I change diapers and still manage to run a business.

And there’s nothing just about it.

I wanted to tell her that, but I didn’t know how. So I just hope, sincerely, that no one ever says that to her as she’s running around town, having dropped her preschooler off but bringing the baby to the phone store just to try and cross another task off the never-ending list before picking up said preschooler, going home and making dinner, doing bath time and bedtime and reading stories and heating up bottles and getting just one more snack and tucking in her children. I hope no one ever says to her that she’s “just a mom”. Because she won’t be.

Just like we aren’t.

We are so, so much more.

Xoxo,

Taniya

FAQ’s of Being a Pilot’s Wife – What Is It Really Like??

February 6, 2015 by Flight Wife 3 Comments

FAQ’s of Being a Pilot’s Wife – What Is It Really Like??

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There’s always a pregnant pause whenever I tell someone what my husband does for a living – followed by a flurry of questions. Where does he fly to? Does he always fly the same routes? Has he ever flown anyone famous?  How long is he gone for? Oh wow, do you ever worry he’s going to cheat on you?  The list goes on and on.  It’s pretty funny, actually, especially when you end up quashing some of the widely held assumptions people have.  So I’m going to take a crack at the ones I usually hear the most.  Have a question yourself? Comment below and I’ll answer as best as I can. 🙂

Oh wow, he must make a lot of money! Ok, so this is more of a statement than an actual question, but I consider in an inquiry nonetheless.  The short answer? Hahahahahahahahahahahaha, no. Although he makes a decent salary nowadays, it took us a looooong time to get to the point where we weren’t completely stressed about money, living paycheck to paycheck, and wondering how we were going to keep the roof over our heads.  Not many people know this, but I’m going to let you in on a little secret: It takes a shitload of money to become a pilot, and after they are done shelling out nearly $100 grand to finish school, if they are lucky enough to be hired by a regional (and I use the term “lucky” loosely), they will start at right around $19,000 a year. Yep, you read that right.

Pilots’ starting salary to fly actual real life people around pays less than $20,000 a year. In the airline industry, this is seen as a travesty, yet people are still surprised to actually see/hear about it. When Scott started flying, he was lucky enough not to have any student loans (not the norm for most pilots) because he had sold his house and used the equity along with money his grandparents generously gifted him to pay for flight school.  All his living expenses went on credit cards. (Not much better, IMO.)  We both flew for a regional airline (I was a flight attendant – don’t you dare ever use the S word), and it was about 6 or 7 years in before he was making an ok salary.  Now that he’s moved on to a major (and suffered through what is called “first year pay” – the dreaded peanuts pay that all airlines start with to, in my opinion, see what you’re made of. “Oh you have a family of 4? Ha, see if you can survive on this) he is now making more than he ever has, and we are finally at a good place. He’s been a pilot for 12 years.  And our story is not nearly as bad as some of the others I’ve heard.

 

Where does he fly? Does he get the same routes every trip? This really depends on the airline, but they pretty much have no control over where they fly to (with some exceptions). The majority of pilots bid for their schedule in advance (a bid lasts a month), and do it to get the most days off as possible, while trying to get as many hours crunched into those trips to pay decently.  The trips they get are the ones that fall into their parameters.  My husband’s airline doesn’t have a huge amount of hubs, so he often does fly to the same cities.

 

Has he ever flown anyone famous? Yes!  He has flown Eva Longoria, Drew Barrymore, Sally Field, John Lovitz, Jamie Lynn Sigler, and Courtney Love.  He also was on a plane with Mike Tyson, and saw Ron Jeremy at the Phoenix airport. (I don’t know if he really counts, he’s like an F-list celebrity – get it? F-list? Man, that one wrote itself.)

 

How long is he usually gone for? Usually anywhere from 3-5 days, and then home for 3-5 days. Sometimes more, sometimes less.

 

Do you ever worry he’s going to cheat on you? Hahaha, this one always makes me laugh. No, I don’t. And not because it’s not a reality, either.  I’ve flown with my share of douchebag pilots before, they are definitely out there. But there are more good ones than bad, it’s just that the bad ones create more of a name for themselves.  If my husband were going to cheat, he would do it regardless of whether or not he was pilot.  Doctors cheat, lawyers cheat, teachers cheat. There are cheaters in every profession. Cheating has more to do with your character than what you do for a living, and there are just as many wives at home who have the same opportunity.

But doesn’t the atmosphere create a environment ripe for cheating? You know, layovers together, staying in the same hotel, being together for days?

Sometimes, yes. But just because my husband is around other women (sometimes for days at a time) doesn’t mean he doesn’t have self control. Can you imagine trying to stop him from going to the grocery store, the gas station, my son’s preschool? Women are everywhere, and he either has self control or he doesn’t.  I wouldn’t have married my husband if I thought he could be a cheater. (Although I’m sure no woman whose husband ends up cheating ever thought to herself, you know, he seems like a cheater. Oh, well, let’s see what happens!)  However, being exposed to many, many different men, I did a pretty damn good job of sniffing out who would cheat on whom.  And I also had many propositions as a flight attendant. But every time, I chose the outcome. I could either cheat, or not. Same for him. You either have trust or you don’t. End of story.

This is a pretty heated subject among pilot wives. Many argue that they don’t let their husbands go out on overnights with flight attendants, or friend them on Facebook, because just the temptation alone is fostering a cheating environment. I tend to disagree. Mostly because I was a flight attendant, and I feel the need to defend some of these pilots.  Sometimes only some of our crew would want to go out to eat after a long day of flying. Some of the places we went to (ahem, Vegas) had hotels that were not in the best areas. If I was starving, you bet your ass I wasn’t going alone. So I’d call up one of the pilots and see if they would go with me. Just the fact of being a woman alone in another city is a daunting prospect. On more than one occasion we would get to a shady hotel and the pilots would offer to check our rooms out first (like a security sweep) to make sure nothing was amiss. They’d check the bathroom, under the beds, etc. just to make sure. I’m sure you’ve heard the horror stories about flight attendants being attacked or even murdered. If not, Google “Jeffrey Gorton”, who killed Nancy Ludwig while she was on a layover. He pushed her into her room as she was opening the door, then gagged her, raped her, and slit her throat. This is why I personally chose to sometimes have pilots check my room. It wasn’t a joke.

Yet, I understand the worry some wives have about their husbands being left alone with other women. It’s a weird feeling knowing they are enjoying themselves on their overnights while we are at home, usually taking care of dinner, bath time, bedtime, and all the craziness being a mom entails. However, like I said before, you either have trust or you don’t.  I choose to trust my husband. I know he wouldn’t cheat. I mean, let’s face it; we’re 13 years apart, if he goes any younger than me he’s a creep.  (Hahaha!) We have a very open relationship, (not that kind of open, get your mind out of the gutter) and we talk a lot about everything.  If he has a pretty flight attendant, he has no problem telling me. He has also told me the stories of passengers trying to hit on him. (Which I happen to think is funny, aaaand a little bit hot. They want my man? Makes him even sexier.)  There are beautiful women everywhere. Trying to control my husband is not going to negate that fact.

It’s all. About. Trust.

That’s pretty much all I can think of for the moment! Do you have any questions?? Let me know what they are, I would love to answer!!

 

Xoxo,

Taniya

I’m here!!

February 5, 2015 by Flight Wife Leave a Comment

Holy crap, it’s my first blog post…

So I guess some introductions are in order. I’m Taniya (pronounced Ta-NEE-ya), a 31 year old wife and mom of 2. See those adorable cherubs on the homepage? I’m lucky enough to be their mama, and most of the time I love it. The other times I’m hiding in a corner hoping all the messes will clean themselves, the babe will put herself in her crib when she’s done screaming, and that my son will figure out how to tie his own damn shoes. (I always seem to forget this fact as we’re running 10 minutes late trying to get out the door.)

I started this blog after a few people asked me if I had one; simple as that.  I have a lot to share with people!! I love making people laugh, and sharing all my tips for things that I get asked about often.  I am by no means an expert in anything, although I’d like to think I’m pretty good at many things.  I am not perfect, nor do I strive for perfection; who has time for that?!  I do try to do my best in everything I do, and that seems to resonate with people.  We are all trying our best, especially when it comes to parenthood.  I want to write about that, and find out what YOU have to say as well!  I also want to write about my adventures as a part-time single parent. My husband is an airline pilot, which means he is gone for days at a time while we try and form some semblance of a schedule when he’s gone.

I am no weakling, and I think my self-reliance and self-sufficiency are traits that make me better equipped to handle being a pilot’s wife.  Any pilot wife will tell you that this lifestyle is not for the faint of heart.  The women I have met in the same situation as myself are some of the strongest, smartest, and hard working women I’ve ever met.  Whether we stay at home, work at home, work part-time, full time, or run businesses, there is a camaraderie among us.  We know what it’s like to wake up to an empty bed and forget why, to forget what day our husbands are coming home because we don’t even know today what day it is, or even what state (or sometimes country) our husbands are in at the moment.  It’s an interesting life, that’s for sure!  And one that I hope you will soon understand as I tell you more stories.  I’m sure you can relate to them, even if you’re not a pilot wife!  I have a great respect for ALL mamas – we are all navigating parenthood the best we can.

I hope you enjoy reading, you’re in for some good times!!

 

Xoxo,

Taniya

 

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