Welcome to part 2! Here are some more tips on keeping things sizzling when your husband is a traveler. (If you missed it, here’s part one of this how-to.)
We all know what happens when we’ve been with our spouses for years. We figure that we already know all of their stories, their hopes and dreams, and their fears. I am totally guilty of this. On more than one occasion I have completely tuned out my husband because he’s telling a story I’ve already heard a million times. He can be forgetful, that one.
Besides, that was totally the point of dating. To put everything under a microscope and learn everything we possibly could about our future mate. But sometimes people change, and we should really try to never stop learning about each other.
Would you want your husband to stop asking about you? Of course not! You are super interesting! We’ll get back to how interesting you are in my next point. Anyway, I found this list of fun questions to ask your spouse:
Things like, “What is one thing you’d like to accomplish by this time next year?” and “What was your earliest childhood memory?” are included. I am totally trying it out this weekend when we go on our date!
This is super important. Remember when I said earlier that you are interesting? Part of that is due to the stuff that you do outside of your marriage. What are you into? What did you used to be into before you were married?
For instance, I love photography. (So much that I started a business because of it.) I also love music and playing the piano. I like painting, and reading, and writing (obviously). Some of this stuff Scott is into, and some of it he isn’t. He has his own interests and hobbies, including brewing beer and making (damn good) wine. He also loves flying (of course) and boating.
The great thing about having your own interests is that it makes you, you. When you both work on your separate stuff, you get to come back together and talk about how it’s going. I love being able to tell Scott some of the stuff I see when I am taking pictures, and he always compliments my work and tells me how impressed he is. (Which I love!)
He loves sharing his beer making skills with me, and often has me taste test his brews before he kegs them. It’s fun! It’s pretty hot to see your spouse get into something, enjoy it, and be good at it. And when they let you into their world and can teach you a thing or two, that’s a bonus.
The couple who plays together, stays together.
This one can be tough, but bear with me here. This one is not for the casual mention, really. It’s for a time you can be private together. In other words, it’s pillow talk. Not that it has to be a serious convo; on the contrary, it can totally be something you talk about after a few drinks and you are both in the mood.
Ask your spouse what their fantasies are. What would they want to try that you’ve never done? (This goes hand in hand with talking to each other – notice a theme?) Play the game Would You Ever:
“Would you ever have a threesome?”
“Would you ever do it in public?”
“Would you ever do it on an airplane?”
The game is fun because it opens up some hilarious and teasing dialogue. And talking about what you fantasize about is super sexy.
Remember to never make fun of the other person. No fantasy is too weird, even if it seems that way to you. You can laugh about it and move on, but don’t ever alienate your spouse by making fun of them or calling them a freak. You will sever that bond faster than you can say “handcuffs”.
Did I say handcuffs? You bet I did. Bow chicka bow wow!
Have any suggestions of your own? I would love to hear from you! Comment below with your thoughts. 🙂
The Flight Wife